DVF’s Deep Emerald Greens for Fall

posted by: trainingheels in Diane von Furstenberg on July 27th, 2011

There’s a lot to like about the new hues of green for this fall. Not only does a deep emerald green work as an autumnal color, but it’ll stay true to you when next spring rolls around again, pairing with spring’s dresses.

The green I’m seeing at DVF is particularly lovely. Whether in rich suede or soft calfskin, the greens of DVF are saturated colors that make you want to keep your shoes on at all times.

DVF Zia Cross Front Suede Sandal, $280, DVF.com

Check out the deep emerald green calfskin boot you’ll want to wear on rainy days after the jump.

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Why Women over 40 Should Be Picky Daters

posted by: trainingheels in Dating over 40

T"I know why you aren't married: you're just too picky!" Women who are single in their 40s, 50s and beyond hear this a lot. After all, what other reason can there be for why you haven't yet snagged a man? As a woman who became a first-time bride at 47, I heard this a lot - especially from my father. And the word "picky" was said with such disdain, like I wasn't deserving of being selective. Like I should just grab the next guy who would have me. When you hear that enough, you can start buying into thinking that your expectations of men are simply too high. Then, as often happens in the black-or-white world many of us live in, our answer is to swing the complete opposite direction. We start accepting less, sticking around too long and putting up with way too much. As a dating and relationship coach for women over 40, I see this a lot. A perfect example is "New York," a gal who emailed me recently: "I like him and decided to give him a few more chances. Another chance to cancel at the last minute, stand me up, never call or seem busy if I called. I was trying to break an old habit of giving up too soon." In her effort to be more open and give him a chance, she accepted disrespect and his utter lack of integrity. He didn't treat her as if she was special to him in any way: far from it, in fact. Yet she was sticking around. This is the gigantic question, isn't it? If you're not feeling happy with him, how do you decide if you're expecting too much or not giving him enough time? You don't want to miss out on a good guy, but you don't want to waste your time on the wrong guy either. I admit that it's hard to get your arms around striking the balance between being picky and being a pushover. This was definitely one of my toughest challenges in my umpteen years of dating. I finally figured out a way to make good decisions around this, and now I teach that as my last step of my Find Hope and then Find Him Coaching Program. I call this step "Should I Stay or Should I Go? I strongly encourage you to be a picky dater. This is especially true if you're dating over 40 and clear about who you are and what you want. If you know this, and have articulated your rules and boundaries, then you know your dating must haves. And more importantly, you know your can't-haves. You may not know early on if he has is your guy, but you tend to know if he isn't. And you just don't have to accept bad behavior. On that you should be Ms. Picky. With the rest of the stuff, chill and give him a chance. When I asked New York if her must-haves included being honored and told the truth, she said "of course" and her decision suddenly seemed quite easy. It was time to bail. Making these good decisions has everything to do with how you feel about yourself. Do you trust and respect yourself? When you have simple tools like this to guide you to results you can be proud of, it can completely change the way you date.

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Ports 1961 White Perforated Foldover Bootie Sandals

posted by: trainingheels in General on July 26th, 2011

I’ve long admired Ports 1961′s elegant, romantic style, but never knew they had shoes. Apparently some of their shoes remind people of udon noodles!

These white perforated foldover sandle booties are where it’s at right now. They’ve got so many trends going for them, it’s hard to count them all! Open toe, white hot, folded, perforated, sandal boots, contrast heel.

They’re normally $595, but they’re on sale for half off right now. Get em while you can! Find your Ports 1961 store or visit my favorite, in the Meatpacking District.

Ego and Greed Bowler Espadrille Boots

posted by: trainingheels in General on July 25th, 2011

I don’t usually love espradrilles, but this one takes the flowered cake.

The recipe for this shoe might go something like this.

1. Start with a beautiful light turquoise vintage-inspired floral fabric top and an espadrille crust with a 4.5-inch heel and 1.5-inch platform.
2. Cut out a cute peep toe design.
3. Punch holes and add  matching turquoise laces.
4. Weave in some metallic thread detailing.
5. Wear your delicious shoes out to a party, school, the dancefloor or your friend’s house.

I can’t wait to get this shoe. Maybe it’ll go on sale soon after the summer ends?

Ego and Greed Bowler Espadrille, $112 at Karmaloop.com, or $129.95 at Shoegasm (in-store)

Louis Vuitton Red Platform Lace-Up Sally Pumps

posted by: trainingheels in General, Louis Vuitton Shoes on July 25th, 2011

What do you think, readers? Is this LV a “Mais Oui!” or an “Ah, Non!”?

I love the combo of a classic menswear shoe with a sexy women’s heel, so for me this is a “Mais Oui!”

What makes the deal even sweeter for me is the red platform and the slightly strange black stripe. I like how it doesn’t go all the way around but sort of ends bizarrely at an arbitrary point. It makes this shoe more special.

Louis Vuitton Sally Lace-Up Pump, $1,680, Louis Vuitton stores.

Pretty In Python, But It Can’t Be Shipped to California

posted by: trainingheels in Lanvin Shoes on July 23rd, 2011

Hello, Bow-Toe!

Lanvin’s Bow-Toe Python Slingback is the perfect late summer shoe that will transition into fall.

This 2.5-inch heel with an elastic slingback has a slightly atypical python print. The python seems to be slightly stretched out or elongated, as if someone had pulled it around the length of the shoe.

Compared to today’s high, high heels, this height of 2.5 inches is starting to look like a kitten heel.

A note: Python items cannot be sold or shipped to the state of California. What a bummer for the Californians!

Do you think python should be outlawed because it is endangered, or are you an angry fashionista in California who wants her python?

Lanvin Bow-Toe Python Slingback, $850, BergdorfGoodman.com